Thursday, July 28, 2011
Tuesday, July 26, 2011
Have hair products, will travel
I made my way to my favorite natural food and beauty store! I've made a new concoction for summer moisture.
If you are struggling with retaining moisture try this recipe:
You'll need a spray bottle for this.
4 oz Heritage rose water
2 oz Glycerine
.5 oz Lanoline
a little dab of Coconut oil
Tangerine oil
Add a little water if you so desire
SOFTNICITY AT ITS FINEST.
Wednesday, July 20, 2011
Walking on Water
It was a stormy night, you know the kind where the lightening strikes, and Jesus asks you to walk on water. Yeah, I'm so there.
Jesus asks Peter to walk on Water
BUT
Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.
Marianne Williamson
Sunday, July 17, 2011
RANDOMOCITY
He hovered over her
Both bodies bare
In that moment
Her giggles turned silent
Instantly
He was there
Parting the seas
She gasped
Exasperated breath
An escaped sound
He kissed her
Passion drew them near
As she was taken away
From his every inch
every fiber of his being
Going deeper
Each stroke
So slow, so methodical
In that moment
Two lovers softly crashed
Against the wall
And fell into the depths of love.
Both bodies bare
In that moment
Her giggles turned silent
Instantly
He was there
Parting the seas
She gasped
Exasperated breath
An escaped sound
He kissed her
Passion drew them near
As she was taken away
From his every inch
every fiber of his being
Going deeper
Each stroke
So slow, so methodical
In that moment
Two lovers softly crashed
Against the wall
And fell into the depths of love.
Saturday, July 16, 2011
Choose your side: The Thin Red Line
I've always loved Ledisi's song, "Best Friend." It tells a tale of a woman who is in love with her male best friend, and that love is causing internal strife and confusion.
This post is to placate my piqued curiosity.
If you cross the line with your friend, what happens?
Lets say you have a friend. A hypothetical friend, and this friend over the course of several years has grown to know your relationship hang ups, hold ons, turn ons, turn offs, desires, fantasies, drunken truths, sober truths, might have consoled you through tears of previous boyfriend(s), broken hearts, drunken stupors surrounding an ex... this friend has seen emotional parts of you that sometimes you don't even realize are there until you're sharing them.
There have been so many times that you've done something so completely off the wall, for whatever reason, you still call him (because he's your friend), and you're shocked he even answers the phone (because he's your friend). In some way, you already love him deep enough, but it's platonic.
You both have teeter tottered, fumbled around with the notion, but currently understand completely the reality that you both have positions in each other's Friend Zone. Of course, you and your friend both are enjoying doing what you all do with your respective lovers. BUT, eventually, there comes a moment, when the opportunity arises to cross the line.
One day, you try it. He's ready, you're ready... or are you?
Will you cross the thin red line between that romantic-less love and friendship and skirt into that other love that goes with homey lover friend-dom?
I mean, is that the situation, or have you just committed to being buddies? You know, that beneficial arrangement that doesn't allow for complaining when another buddy steps into the picture?
Will someone hang on to a pipe dream, thinking the friend is gonna leave who they're with and start a relationship?
Have you singing
or
Internally, hearts exploding like Bombs over Baghdad
cause Sister told you a story that some friends are only about that thing.
It's a thin line. What would happen if you crossed it?
This post is to placate my piqued curiosity.
If you cross the line with your friend, what happens?
Lets say you have a friend. A hypothetical friend, and this friend over the course of several years has grown to know your relationship hang ups, hold ons, turn ons, turn offs, desires, fantasies, drunken truths, sober truths, might have consoled you through tears of previous boyfriend(s), broken hearts, drunken stupors surrounding an ex... this friend has seen emotional parts of you that sometimes you don't even realize are there until you're sharing them.
There have been so many times that you've done something so completely off the wall, for whatever reason, you still call him (because he's your friend), and you're shocked he even answers the phone (because he's your friend). In some way, you already love him deep enough, but it's platonic.
You both have teeter tottered, fumbled around with the notion, but currently understand completely the reality that you both have positions in each other's Friend Zone. Of course, you and your friend both are enjoying doing what you all do with your respective lovers. BUT, eventually, there comes a moment, when the opportunity arises to cross the line.
One day, you try it. He's ready, you're ready... or are you?
Will you cross the thin red line between that romantic-less love and friendship and skirt into that other love that goes with homey lover friend-dom?
I mean, is that the situation, or have you just committed to being buddies? You know, that beneficial arrangement that doesn't allow for complaining when another buddy steps into the picture?
Will someone hang on to a pipe dream, thinking the friend is gonna leave who they're with and start a relationship?
Have you singing
or
Internally, hearts exploding like Bombs over Baghdad
cause Sister told you a story that some friends are only about that thing.
It's a thin line. What would happen if you crossed it?
Sunday, July 10, 2011
Women's HEALTH post
Last weekend was Houston Caribfest. The flags, food, concerts, music, and dancing was the most fun I've experienced in YEARS! Brought me back to Brooklyn hanging out until the sun came up at the backyard curryque or the soca fete. I almost lost my mind when Iwer George hit the stage that Saturday night. On his hit chune Come to Meh, he said, start to jump. I was already HYPED! KRUNK! READY!! I started to jump, MAAADDDD!
In that moment, in the midst of the adrenaline rush, the zealousness, my overall sheer excitement, there it came: that goshdoggone oops!! That dreaded, most embarrassing postpartum issue that women, especially young women, dare not speak on!
We've seen commercials with older women, heard about it in movies, maybe even overheard gramma and mom speak about it at the dining table with aunt so and so, but how often do we young women ever really discuss the real issue of INCONTINENCE?
Incontinence is caused by weak muscles or damage to the nerves in the urinary tract. As an issue affecting health and quality of life, incontinence is an issue that affects women and men alike, but more often older women, and those who have delivered children. Women experience incontinence twice as often as men. Pregnancy and childbirth, menopause, and the structure of the female urinary tract account for this difference. But both women and men can become incontinent from neurological injury, birth defects, stroke, multiple sclerosis, and physical problems associated with aging.
However, with a weak pelvic floor, women who have had children may have trouble with urine leakage because the uterus grows and in the process, strains the muscles supporting the uterus and bladder.
There are two main kinds of urinary incontinence. Some women have both.
Stress incontinence occurs when you sneeze, cough, laugh, jog, or do other things that put pressure on your bladder. It is the most common type of bladder control problem in women.
Urge incontinence happens when you have a strong need to urinate but can't reach the toilet in time. Overactive bladder is a kind of urge incontinence. But not everyone with overactive bladder leaks urine.
Stress incontinence can be caused by childbirth, weight gain, or other conditions that stretch the pelvic floor muscles. When these muscles cannot support your bladder properly, the bladder drops down and pushes against the vagina. You cannot tighten the muscles that close off the urethra. So urine may leak because of the extra pressure on the bladder when you cough, sneeze, laugh, exercise, or do other activities.
THE GREAT THING IS, among the options, THERE IS A NONINVASIVE CURE!!!
No pills, no surgery, no rejuvenation or tightening creams, just a couple of simple pelvic exercises. Kegels! As simple as a matter of squeezing the pelvic floor muscles, there are a variety of ways that this could be done.
One way to locate the muscles is to contract them during urine flow when urinating. You can also practice by clenching the muscles together on your partner’s penis during intercourse. There are also Kegel weights that can be used for continence and the added benefit of a strengthened orgasm.
It is recommended to have effective Kegel exercises that you hold for 3 seconds, release for 3 seconds, repeating for a total of 10 reps. Do this for 5 minutes a day. You can strengthen your lower pelvic muscles while sitting at your desk at work, in the shower, reading or watching tv WITHOUT ANYONE EVER KNOWING! They are safe to do during pregnancy also! This will help prevent the problem of urinary leakage post delivery, and also help with an easier delivery.
From WebMD: Performing Kegel exercises
First, as you are sitting or lying down, try to contract the muscles you would use to stop urinating. You should feel your pelvic muscles squeezing your urethra and anus. If your stomach or buttocks muscles tighten, you are not exercising the right muscles.
When you've found the right way to contract the pelvic muscles, squeeze for 3 seconds and then relax for 3 seconds.
Repeat this exercise 10 to 15 times per session. Try to do this at least 3 times a day. Kegel exercises are only effective when done regularly. The more you exercise, the more likely it is that the exercises will help.
The Mayo Clinic also comments on the exercises saying
It takes diligence to identify your pelvic floor muscles and learn how to contract and relax them. Here are some pointers:
Find the right muscles. Insert a finger inside your vagina and try to squeeze the surrounding muscles. You should feel your vagina tighten and your pelvic floor move upward. Then relax your muscles and feel your pelvic floor return to the starting position. You can also try to stop the flow of urine when you urinate. If you succeed, you've got the basic move. Don't make a habit of starting and stopping your urine stream, though. Doing Kegel exercises with a full bladder or while emptying your bladder can actually weaken the muscles, as well as lead to incomplete emptying of the bladder — which increases the risk of a urinary tract infection.
Perfect your technique. Once you've identified your pelvic floor muscles, empty your bladder and sit or lie down. Contract your pelvic floor muscles, hold the contraction for five seconds, then relax for five seconds. Try it four or five times in a row. Work up to keeping the muscles contracted for 10 seconds at a time, relaxing for 10 seconds between contractions.
Maintain your focus. For best results, focus on tightening only your pelvic floor muscles. Be careful not to flex the muscles in your abdomen, thighs or buttocks. Avoid holding your breath. Instead, breathe freely during the exercises.
Repeat three times a day. Aim for at least three sets of 10 repetitions a day. You might make a practice of fitting in a set every time you do a routine task, such as checking email, commuting to work, preparing meals or watching TV.
There are tons of websites that discuss other options for continued issues relating to incontinence. You can check WebMD and google other remedies if Kegels aren’t effective in helping with your leakage concerns. With all medical conditions, consult your physician before starting any type of exercise routine or possible invasive treatments.
Also check out:
American Urogynecologic Society
2025 M Street, NW, Suite 800
Washington, DC 20036
Phone: 202-367-1167
Email: info@augs.org
Internet: www.augs.org
American Urological Association
1000 Corporate Boulevard
Linthicum, MD 21090
Phone: 1-866-RING-AUA (746-4282) or 410-689-3700
Email: aua@auanet.org
Internet: www.UrologyHealth.org
National Association for Continence
P.O. Box 1019
Charleston, SC 29402-1019
Phone: 1-800-BLADDER (252-3337) or 843-377-0900
Email: memberservices@nafc.org
Internet: www.nafc.org
The Simon Foundation for Continence
P.O. Box 815
Wilmette, IL 60091
Phone: 1-800-23-SIMON (237-4666) or 847-864-3913
Email: simoninfo@simonfoundation.org
Internet: www.simonfoundation.org
In that moment, in the midst of the adrenaline rush, the zealousness, my overall sheer excitement, there it came: that goshdoggone oops!! That dreaded, most embarrassing postpartum issue that women, especially young women, dare not speak on!
We've seen commercials with older women, heard about it in movies, maybe even overheard gramma and mom speak about it at the dining table with aunt so and so, but how often do we young women ever really discuss the real issue of INCONTINENCE?Incontinence is caused by weak muscles or damage to the nerves in the urinary tract. As an issue affecting health and quality of life, incontinence is an issue that affects women and men alike, but more often older women, and those who have delivered children. Women experience incontinence twice as often as men. Pregnancy and childbirth, menopause, and the structure of the female urinary tract account for this difference. But both women and men can become incontinent from neurological injury, birth defects, stroke, multiple sclerosis, and physical problems associated with aging.
However, with a weak pelvic floor, women who have had children may have trouble with urine leakage because the uterus grows and in the process, strains the muscles supporting the uterus and bladder.
There are two main kinds of urinary incontinence. Some women have both.
Stress incontinence occurs when you sneeze, cough, laugh, jog, or do other things that put pressure on your bladder. It is the most common type of bladder control problem in women.Urge incontinence happens when you have a strong need to urinate but can't reach the toilet in time. Overactive bladder is a kind of urge incontinence. But not everyone with overactive bladder leaks urine.
Stress incontinence can be caused by childbirth, weight gain, or other conditions that stretch the pelvic floor muscles. When these muscles cannot support your bladder properly, the bladder drops down and pushes against the vagina. You cannot tighten the muscles that close off the urethra. So urine may leak because of the extra pressure on the bladder when you cough, sneeze, laugh, exercise, or do other activities.
THE GREAT THING IS, among the options, THERE IS A NONINVASIVE CURE!!!
No pills, no surgery, no rejuvenation or tightening creams, just a couple of simple pelvic exercises. Kegels! As simple as a matter of squeezing the pelvic floor muscles, there are a variety of ways that this could be done.
One way to locate the muscles is to contract them during urine flow when urinating. You can also practice by clenching the muscles together on your partner’s penis during intercourse. There are also Kegel weights that can be used for continence and the added benefit of a strengthened orgasm.
It is recommended to have effective Kegel exercises that you hold for 3 seconds, release for 3 seconds, repeating for a total of 10 reps. Do this for 5 minutes a day. You can strengthen your lower pelvic muscles while sitting at your desk at work, in the shower, reading or watching tv WITHOUT ANYONE EVER KNOWING! They are safe to do during pregnancy also! This will help prevent the problem of urinary leakage post delivery, and also help with an easier delivery.
From WebMD: Performing Kegel exercises
First, as you are sitting or lying down, try to contract the muscles you would use to stop urinating. You should feel your pelvic muscles squeezing your urethra and anus. If your stomach or buttocks muscles tighten, you are not exercising the right muscles.
When you've found the right way to contract the pelvic muscles, squeeze for 3 seconds and then relax for 3 seconds.
Repeat this exercise 10 to 15 times per session. Try to do this at least 3 times a day. Kegel exercises are only effective when done regularly. The more you exercise, the more likely it is that the exercises will help.
The Mayo Clinic also comments on the exercises saying
It takes diligence to identify your pelvic floor muscles and learn how to contract and relax them. Here are some pointers:
Find the right muscles. Insert a finger inside your vagina and try to squeeze the surrounding muscles. You should feel your vagina tighten and your pelvic floor move upward. Then relax your muscles and feel your pelvic floor return to the starting position. You can also try to stop the flow of urine when you urinate. If you succeed, you've got the basic move. Don't make a habit of starting and stopping your urine stream, though. Doing Kegel exercises with a full bladder or while emptying your bladder can actually weaken the muscles, as well as lead to incomplete emptying of the bladder — which increases the risk of a urinary tract infection.
Perfect your technique. Once you've identified your pelvic floor muscles, empty your bladder and sit or lie down. Contract your pelvic floor muscles, hold the contraction for five seconds, then relax for five seconds. Try it four or five times in a row. Work up to keeping the muscles contracted for 10 seconds at a time, relaxing for 10 seconds between contractions.
Maintain your focus. For best results, focus on tightening only your pelvic floor muscles. Be careful not to flex the muscles in your abdomen, thighs or buttocks. Avoid holding your breath. Instead, breathe freely during the exercises.
Repeat three times a day. Aim for at least three sets of 10 repetitions a day. You might make a practice of fitting in a set every time you do a routine task, such as checking email, commuting to work, preparing meals or watching TV.
There are tons of websites that discuss other options for continued issues relating to incontinence. You can check WebMD and google other remedies if Kegels aren’t effective in helping with your leakage concerns. With all medical conditions, consult your physician before starting any type of exercise routine or possible invasive treatments.
Also check out:
American Urogynecologic Society
2025 M Street, NW, Suite 800
Washington, DC 20036
Phone: 202-367-1167
Email: info@augs.org
Internet: www.augs.org
American Urological Association
1000 Corporate Boulevard
Linthicum, MD 21090
Phone: 1-866-RING-AUA (746-4282) or 410-689-3700
Email: aua@auanet.org
Internet: www.UrologyHealth.org
National Association for Continence
P.O. Box 1019
Charleston, SC 29402-1019
Phone: 1-800-BLADDER (252-3337) or 843-377-0900
Email: memberservices@nafc.org
Internet: www.nafc.org
The Simon Foundation for Continence
P.O. Box 815
Wilmette, IL 60091
Phone: 1-800-23-SIMON (237-4666) or 847-864-3913
Email: simoninfo@simonfoundation.org
Internet: www.simonfoundation.org
Friday, July 8, 2011
Bentonite treatment: Before, During, After
Bentonite mix:
6-8 spoonfulls of calcium bentonite
2-4 spoonfulls of soduim bentonite
A couple drops of tea tree oil
A BIG squirt of glycerin
coconut oil
A healthy squirt of honey
Apx 1/4 cup Rose Water
Apx 1/4 cup of AVC
Tap Water
You want to add the dry before you add the wet ingredients. Combine the clay and the oils. Then, add your rose water, ACV, and water. Mix in a PLASTIC container with a PLASTIC utensil.
You want the consistency to be thick, but thin enough to apply evenly. It will be slightly to moderately lumpy. That's fine.
After you wash and condition your hair, leave it wet. Take a small enough section of hair, and apply the clay from root to end, coating each strand.
Do this until your entire head is covered.
If you have any left over, its just as good to use on your face and neck.
Leave the clay on until it hardens, which may be about 30-45 minutes. Rinse thoroughly and moisturize and style as usual.
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